An Open Letter to a Homeschool Mom

Dear Homeschool Mom,

Before you look back to assess the past school year, listen to these three words: You’ve Done Well.

I know it’s hard to accept these words when you’re so hard on yourself. And I don’t blame you. It’s hard not to be hard on yourself when your children’s education is sitting in the palm of your hand. Oftentimes, you beat yourself up about what you could’ve done better. At other times, you wonder if you even have what it takes to continue this job.

Those negative thoughts blur your vision, making it difficult to see progress. They cause you to magnify moments of frustration and minimize moments of victory. They cause you to focus on that one area where your child is struggling instead of focusing on the many wonderful things he or she has learned.

Trust me, I totally understand. You started this homeschool journey with an overarching thought in mind, “I can do this!” You had heard so many well-painted stories of parents who had graduated homeschooled prodigies. And you kept telling yourself that if a traditional school teacher can teach 30 students at one time, surely you could handle your little crew.

Then reality smacked you in the face because nobody told you the whole story. They didn’t tell you that your perfectly planned days would sometimes be interrupted by unexpected life events. They didn’t tell you that homeschooling, cooking, cleaning, mommy duties, wife life, personal goals, etcetera were all parts of a big juggling act, and many days you would drop more than a few balls. They didn’t tell you that while your big kid would be pleading for help to solve a math problem, your toddler would be having a full-blown tantrum. And nobody dared to tell you that when you would finally get the chance to help your big kid, you couldn’t – because you wouldn’t know how to solve that math problem yourself.

You soon realized that your homeschool wasn’t perfect. Not anything close to being perfect. But you pressed on anyway. You kept planning new lessons. You kept praying for guidance and seeking help from others. When you didn’t fully understand a lesson topic, you researched until you knew it like the back of your hand. Some nights you went to bed feeling defeated, but the next morning you were right back at the kitchen table with paper and pencil in hand. Yes, you pressed on!

You pressed on because, in your heart of hearts, you know that:

  • Home provides a safe environment for your children to learn.
  • Home is a place where you can nurture the whole child – spiritually, academically, and emotionally.
  • Homeschooling allows your children to receive a tailored education. Because you truly know your children, you can guide them to explore topics and a career path of their interest. Also, they can learn at a pace that enables them to truly master each lesson. And when lessons are mastered quickly, they can freely move on.
  • Homeschooling can strengthen family bonds.
  • A home education offers flexibility. Learning doesn’t have to be restricted by time or location. Students have many opportunities to explore and discover the world around them.
  • In a homeschool setting, parents can choose learning materials that align with family core values and principles. Parents can also choose how and when to introduce mature topics.
  • And, last but not least, you pressed on because your love for your children runs deeper than the deepest ocean. You love those kids like nobody else can. You care about their well-being and education more than any other person on this planet. You believe in your kids, and your dedication to them is unparalleled.

At times, the few frustrating moments seem to speak louder than the many victorious moments. But it’s that quiet voice deep inside that keeps you going – that voice that constantly says, “You can do this.”

And, you know what? You have done this. You are faithful, and you’re determined to give your children an outstanding education.

So be joyful, my friend. You’ve done well.



Keep this Bible verse handy:

His lord said unto him, “Well done, thou good and faithful servant: thou hast been faithful over a few things, I will make thee ruler over many things: enter thou into the joy of thy lord.” -Matthew 25:21



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  1. Keep pressing on. Even though the days are long, the years are short. Hang in there homeschooling mamas!

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